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How can I Improve Intimacy in my Marriage

In today’s Relationship Lovecast episode we talk about Rekindling Desire and how to Improve Intimacy in your Marriage.
How can I Improve Intimacy in my Marriage
“Desire is defined as the positive anticipation and feeling that you deserve healthy sexuality in your life & in your relationship.” – Andrea Cairella

How can you improve intimacy in your relationships:

Life’s routine can be really mundane. Which makes keeping the spark alive in your romantic relationship difficult. But this is exactly why it is even more important to maintain. In this podcast, we’ll talk about rekindling desire in your relationship and how to improve intimacy.
Last week I read a book called Rekindling Desire that highlights the main barriers to desire and how to overcome them. It also mentions strategies that add physical or emotional sparkle to your interactions with your partner. And in this way help you improve the quality of intimacy in your relationships.

In TODAY’S EPISODE we will cover:

Foreplay & Afterplay

How to incorporate foreplay and after play in your romantic partnership in order to improve intimacy.


And also what are the physical and emotional barriers to intimacy in committed relationships.


Finally, how to create a closer and deeper emotional and physical bond in your relationship with your partner.

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Spreading the love,

How can I Improve my Negative Thinking

How can I Improve my Negative Thinking

Last week, a girlfriend of mine was sharing with me how unmotivated and stuck she was feeling.  I asked her how she was talking to herself and she responded, “I don’t get things done and procrastinate.  I am a lazy.  I don’t know how to get out of this funk.”  I definitely know how it goes when you are feeling discouraged and dissatisfied with things not going as planned but are motivated to find a way out.

Last month I attended the Awesomeness Fest through MindValley and I had the privilege of hearing Noah St. John share his knowledge and insights.  Noah St. John, is a Hay House author of The Book of Afformations and is known as the “The Power Habits Mentor” and the most sought-after authority on how to eliminate limiting beliefs. He is famous for helping busy people boost performance and profits without sacrificing their values or their free time.

Noah is the author of 10 books that have been translated into 12 languages, including his latest bestseller The Book of AFFORMATIONS® published by Hay House.  I love this man’s work because he truly helps you shift your mindset permanently and transform beliefs into empowering ones with his simple AFFORMATION FORMULA.

Stephen Covey: “Noah St. John’s work is about discovering within ourselves what we should have known all along – we are truly powerful beings with unlimited potential.”  Now I shared this technique with one of my own clients last week who was feeling stuck, unmotivated and disempowered and last night she shared with me that now she thinks more positively, is more at ease within herself and her life and feels more peaceful, creative, fun and playful again.

So if you are feeling stuck, unmotivated or disempowered in any area of your life, this interview and technique will help you think more positively, be at ease within yourself, and allow you to feel more peaceful, creative, fun and playful again.

And if you are a busy people who wants to boost performance and experience a more positive mood without sacrificing your values or your free time this afformation technique will help support you in any endeavor you want to pursue.

In my in-depth interview with Noah St. John, we will cover:

  • What are Afformations and how Noah discovered them
  • How to shift your mindset permanently and transform beliefs into empowering ones with his simple Afformations Formula.
  • Discover the difference between Afformations and affirmations
  • How to get unstuck and overcome “The Belief Gap”
  • How to tap into stress-free prosperity and the step by step afformation formula

You will definitely want to check out this interview as there are many interesting take aways.  Have a great rest of your week and as always please SHARE YOUR COMMENTS and successes in the comments section.

Sending you positive thoughts,


True Potential Counseling
Andrea Cairella, MC, LPCC

8 Important Conversations to Have in Your Relationship

important conversations

Getting married can be an exciting yet anxiety provoking step in one’s life as they go from being an “I” to a “we.”  And as the relationship grows and evolves, it is important to continue to have ongoing conversations about the roles and responsibilities, childrearing, sex and intimacy, spirituality, finances, career, location and how to spend your leisure time.

Almost a year ago, I got married to my soul mate.  We not only enjoyed an amazing wedding in the US, but also had a beautiful wedding in Italy.  Although organizing a wedding is an incredible feat, planning a marriage is even more important and complexed.

That is why this week on Relationship Lovecast, we will be covering the important conversations you need to have with your partner to ensure you are on the same page in your relationship.

You will NOT WANT TO MISS this amazing and enlightening episode about important conversations to have with your partner

In TODAY’S EPISODE I will be covering:

  • Important conversations around dividing chores and responsibilities & how to discipline children
  • Address how to organize the budget and how financial decisions will be made
  • Determine sexual goals, life goals andindividual plans
  • And howmuch quality time you plan on investing in the relationship

SHARE YOUR COMMENTS and discovers in the comments section.

Xxoo Andrea

How to Deal with the Death of Someone Meaningful in Your Life


Back in 2007 I went to Kenya, Africa to lead grief and loss workshops for families and community members who had recently lost a loved one to HIV/AIDS and other illness.  This work was very purposeful and rewarding to me, because I knew that grief and loss for the death of someone meaningful was so prevalent in these small villages and the resources were so limited.

Helping people through the grief and loss process reminded me of the inevitable fact that my own loved ones would someday depart. As I am sure you can relate, dealing with the loss of those closest to you isn’t easy and can leave you feeling lonely and sad.

Grief and loss can also extend to other areas of your life such as: job loss, relocation, disconnection from friends, health issues, a loss of freedom when becoming a parent, financial losses, divorce and separation and even children moving away from home.

Although you may want to shy away from or avoid these conversations, it is important that you are able to deal with the challenges of the death of a loved one. In order to guide us through this process, I have invited Russell P. Friedman, the Executive Director of The Grief Recovery Institute Educational Foundation, Inc. and co-author of The Grief Recovery Handbook, on today’s Relationship Lovecast show.

This episode will not only help you incorporate the tools and strategies in your own personal life when dealing with the death of a loved one or any other personal loss, but also inform and empower you to take steps towards experiencing relief and comfort after any transition or loss.

In our IN-DEPTH INTERVIEW we also cover:

  • What happens in our heart, mind and body when a loved one dies and how can we heal
  • The dimensions of grief and how might someone support someone through loss
  • What can help us effectively move through and heal from our own grief and loss after someone close to us (i.e. like a parent, a child, a relative, a friend, a spouse or a sibling) dies
  • What can happen if we repress grief and loss and what can happen if we effectively grieve

I hope you enjoy this very special episode and as always please SHARE YOUR COMMENTS and successes in the comments section.

Peace and love,


5 Love Languages Unplugged

5 love languages

Over 20 years ago, Dr. Gary Chapman released his famous book The 5 Love Languages.  Over a decade ago, I read his book and felt so empowered to know about the variety of ways to love myself and my future mate.

In his book he described how our love language is our emotional communication preference; the strategy we use to connect with our loved one intimately and how we feel deeply fulfilled in our relationship.  So do you know your love language? Are you aware of your partner’s love language?

A couple of weeks ago a friend of mine, who has been married for over 20 years, shared with me how she always does random acts of kindness for her husband and he doesn’t appreciate or acknowledge her efforts.  Instead he complains about how she does not demonstrate affection as much as he would like.

After sharing with her the 5 main love languages: touch, gift giving, affirmation, acts of service and quality time she quickly identified her primary love language (i.e. acts of service) and her husband’s love language (i.e. touch).

It became apparently clear to her what was happening.  She was sending an acts of service signal of love to her husband, but her husband was not registering it because of his need for loving touch.  If you want to learn how to love yourself and your partner more deeply LISTEN IN on today’s podcast.

In our IN-DEPTH INTERVIEW I will be covering the:

  • The 5 Love Languages based on Gary Chapman’s book
  • How to identify your primary love language
  • How to determine your partner’s love language
  • How to nurture and love yourself and your partner more deeply
  • How to express affection towards yourself and your partner in a variety of ways

Have a great rest of your week and as always please SHARE YOUR COMMENTS and successes in the comments section.

Xxoo Andrea

As a counselor, I am dedicated to helping my clients achieve their objectives and find greater peace of mind, self-acceptance & joy in their lives. It is my goal to provide a nurturing environment for my clients as they grow & discover their internal strength.

“From a patients point of view Andrea is a highly professional and capable counselor with a personable and sensitive approach. I found Andrea was particularly experienced in relationship, trauma and emotional issues. I have trusted her as a professional and the positive results in my life are a clear example to me that she does a wonderful job of what she does.”
Gabrielle D. Milan, Italy

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