What is co-dependency?
Yesterday afternoon I was swimming laps in my local swimming pool. Swimming can be such a cleansing and liberating exercise because it forces you to let go and trust. I decided to do the back stroke despite having several people in my lane, the lack of any clear marks on the ceiling guiding me and no indication of when I was going to arrive at the end of the lane.
At first I was cautious and apprehensive, but after the first or second time I started finding my groove, feeling more secure and trusting the process. I share this with you because sometime in life you may feel that way too, unsure of how the process will go, lacking guidance or direction and fearful of running into a wall and getting hurt.
When you really feel like a fish out of water you can be consumed by fear and either desperately latch onto those around you like a safety blanket or try to control the situation with an iron fist to feel a sense of power and security in the sea of unpredictability.
If you enter into a relationship with that energy or state of mind you can fall into the unhealthy trap of co-dependency. This is why in today’s True Potential TV episode I will be covering what is co-dependency, what is a codependent and how to recognize the negative patterns of codependent relationships.
You will definitely not want to MISS this great episode.
As a counselor, I am dedicated to helping my clients achieve their objectives and find greater peace of mind, self-acceptance & joy in their lives. It is my goal to provide a nurturing environment for my clients as they grow & discover their internal strength.
“From a patients point of view Andrea is a highly professional and capable counselor with a personable and sensitive approach. I found Andrea was particularly experienced in relationship, trauma and emotional issues. I have trusted her as a professional and the positive results in my life are a clear example to me that she does a wonderful job of what she does.”
Gabrielle D. Milan, Italy
“Andrea is a thoughtful and insightful therapist. I can thoroughly endorse her skilled and compassionate style. A most effective therapist.”
Eric W. Sydney, Australia
“Andrea listened to my issues and concerns and guided me through this tough time with an understanding approach. I was able to do the sessions online through the comfort of my own home. Andrea was very flexible and easy to work with. I did not feel like I was in counseling or therapy. It was like having a conversation with a friend over coffee. I did not feel pressured into anything and she allowed me to absorb the information at my own pace.”
“Andrea has taught me the skills that built the foundation for me to grow in therapy. Her special talents have helped me in my difficult times to move forward and work through the impossibilities. I give her a tremendous thanks for being a part of my life and for being the therapist that I needed to grow and be successful. I will take what she has taught me throughout my life journey.”
” I feel that I am a stronger, more confident person who has the ability to achieve anything I want to. I have the confidence and strength to have a relationship and be the mother I have always wanted to be. I want to thank Andrea for helping me close old wounds and get past my assault because without her I wouldn’t be the strong person I am today.”
“Andrea’s persistence and raw compassion allowed me to feel comfortable to open up. She helped me understand that it is okay to be uncomfortable when facing down my demons. In so doing, I am much more comfortable in my skin. I deal with life better today than I ever have before I met Andrea. I feel prepared to handle whatever new challenges come my way in the future.”
“I would definitely recommend Andrea as a therapist, particularly with traumatized clients. Andrea is a natural healer and has the ability to come alongside her clients emotionally in a safe and supportive way. She is incredibly gifted in helping clients who are suffering from trauma related symptoms to find healing and recovery.”
Stacy H., Scottsdale, AZ
“Andrea has the gift of connecting spiritually and from the heart. She leads you with profound questions to discover your inner truth. She knows when to push, when to cheer and when to let you be.”
“Growing up, I have been pretty successful and pretty tough as a person. A few months ago, I went through a very rough time in my life. The emotional ups and downs that I went through were the worst I have ever been through. I started doing some self-help to figure out what was wrong with me and I realized that I had some insecurities that were embedded deep down and I needed to address those. To get a better perspective, I decided to invest in some counseling and came across Andrea and True Potential counseling and I am glad that I did. “
“She allowed me to process at my own pace, with gentle suggestions for new approaches and perspectives that, coming from anyone else, would have been extremely difficult for me to integrate. Andrea is a very gifted counselor and I would recommend her services to anyone.”
Julia C., Denver, CO
“Andrea Cairella is a bright and innovative therapist, with brilliant and imaginative ideas for shaping lives and bringing out the best in the people she touches.”
Justin W., Phoenix, AZ
“We were recommended by a friend to see Andrea Cairella for counseling. My daughter age 7 was having severe emotional problems, partly due to traumas and in part to a chemical imbalance. Andrea was able to break through those “barriers” that past therapists were unable to do. Andrea showed my daughter many positive ways to redirect her anger, frustrations and fears so she would be able to redirect herself while in school and everyday life. In my daughters words she felt “safe” in Andrea’s office. Although the process was painful at first she soon trusted Andrea’s techniques thereby breaking through those “high walls” my daughter had so carefully built. I would recommend Andrea to anyone who wanted to make positive changes in their life.”
“Andrea has been very pleasant and insightful during this very difficult time. I’m glad that she is my counselor.”
“She is soothing, gentle, and intuitive and knows how to reach you and pull you out of the despair. My life is all the better and enriched for having begun my healing journey with her. I cannot say enough good and anyone who has the future opportunity to work with her will be truly blessed.”
Andrea is the best! I have seen other counselors in the past, but it took me a very long time to open up and I felt like I was not making any progress. Not so with Andrea! She has a way of making me feel like I can overcome things I had given up hope on overcoming! She is very patient and really wants to see you succeed. I have left every appointment with more peace and hope. She is definitely in the right line of work!
J O., Chandler, AZ
“I was sexually assaulted at 24 years old and coming to Andrea with my myriad of baggage in tow, is one of the most important decisions I chose to make in my healing process. Throughout my work with her, I’ve found the understanding and acceptance, trust and insight and the compassion that I needed to surround me during this difficult process.”
“She is one of the few people whom I trust today and while the journey is not an easy one, I have found her techniques, feedback, skills and overall whole-hearted-compassion for what she is doing, comforting and reassuring. She is sure to make a safe haven for you to express your pain, hurt, thoughts and desires.”
J.M., Tempe, AZ
If you’re ready to take the steps needed to initiate your journey, take solace in knowing your partnership with Andrea during the healing process is in very competent, open and trustworthy hands. She will stand in your corner beside you.” J.M.
“Andrea has a special presence about her. She is truly talented and gifted and has a natural ability to really reach out, engage, and touch someone’s life. I came to her at a time when I did not know where else to turn and was truly hopeless. I have endured sexual trauma and other impactful traumas that made day-to-day living quite difficult. I gained from her the ability to stand again and to begin down the road of personal empowerment.”
Her skill set with EMDR, grounding skills, mindfulness, and listening made all the difference! I did not believe in my abilities and still struggle, but the time spent in counseling has made an impact, more so than any other process I have undertaken. Andrea has a true ability to connect and guide someone towards their true potential and is able to teach the message of living a good life despite pain.”
M.A., Phoenix, AZ
“I highly recommend Andrea. If you are motivated to improve your self-esteem, confidence and worth, this will be one of the best investments you can make and it can impact you for a lifetime! Save that trip to Vegas and do this instead…you will not regret it!"
A.S., Chandler, AZ
“In my daughters words she felt “safe” in Andrea’s office. Although the process was painful at first she soon trusted Andrea’s techniques thereby breaking through those “high walls” my daughter had so carefully built. I would recommend Andrea to anyone who wanted to make positive changes in their life.”
“My time working with Andrea was pivotal for me in re-discovering my own worth. After being in the depths for so long I was shocked and relieved to discover the confusion and weight lifting and a new sense of self emerge. I am especially grateful for her open, understanding and gentle approach to helping me through what has been the most difficult time in my life.”
“Andrea has taught me the skills that built the foundation for me to grow in therapy. Her special talents have helped me in my difficult times to move forward and work through the impossibilities. I give her a tremendous thanks for being a part of my life and for being the therapist that I needed to grow and be successful. I will take what she has taught me throughout my life journey.” H.S.
“Andrea has the gift of connecting spiritually and from the heart. She leads you with profound questions to discover your inner truth. She knows when to push, when to cheer and when to let you be.” J.R.
“Andrea is amazing. She has a very calm and comforting presence that helped me feel comfortable to open up. She has been able to help me come to a profound realization on my own for a problem I have been struggling with my whole life. It was transformational!” A.A.S.
3 Part Video Series
to Create a
Relationship You Love
- Avoid the 4 Common Mistakes Many Couples Make
- Strengthen your Emotional Bond
- Deepen Intimacy and Connection
- Improve Communication